Difficult Decision E-mails

look at what B3 had to say about Difficult decisions in general, and difficult decisions they've had to make in their life

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Deciding about the department I would choose ın unıversity, I think I did my hardest choice. The reason for this diffuculty was that I had to decide whether I would stay ın ıstanbul or go another city. staying ın ıstanbul would be more comfortable because ı would live with my family and could see all my friends. on the other hand, going another city would be difficult as ı would do all house work by myself and be away from my friends and family. ı thought living another city would be harder for my as ı was used to my mother's cooking for me and wah,ng my clothes for me. so ıt would be really diffult to eat only paste and eggs all the time when ı was alone. ıf you ask why the answer is simple: I only know these two dishes:) fast food is also ok for me for sometimes but ı can not survive eating them all the time in additon to that they are expensive for a student.
the other thing was choosing the department I wanted. At first, I thought being a vet or a food engineer could be good then I started to think that my ability was on more mechanical topics. I used to repair my toys and investigate their inside. ı would not be relaxed if I did not look what was in it. considering these ı decided to choose mecatronical engineering in okan university.Therefore, ı would stay in istanbul with my family and have the comfort ı was used to and at the same time ı would study the subject wich ı wanted...

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-ABORTİON-
how come a person wants to abate somethıng whıch ıs a part of her body?The base questıon:recover of the peoples' life or abate of their life..Definitely;this will be a difficult decision of our life.Needless to say that ;everytime we don't want to do this but sometimes we have to do this.When she will in gestation period,doctors accept of the baby have the healthy problems.For example;how fair to present that kınd of lıfe to a person.May be the baby have a bad life .For example ;he or she will be handicapped or disabled.Sometimes we will decree to this situatıon.If we have a chance to ask the baby wants to live this life ,what does say a baby ?
I thınk ın any case anybody want to have mental anguish in their life.On the other hand;may be they are an unborn child but they have a right to lıfe.Sometimes people have a baby only their enjoyment and this time people want to have an abortion.Never the baby hasn't got an abuse.To get the their truth isn't the right decision.Unborn child doesn't purge an offence.We have difficulties imaging for this situation.If we have this problem,how fair to coerced .This is very difficult question!!

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Difficult decisions sometimes change our life. İmportant thing is how cam we review this deciosn because it can change our life. For this reason we must think a lot for difficlt decions after decide. All people should decide some decions. For example study abroad , live another country or married are difficult decions for some people
In my life my difficult decion is study in İstanbul because my family live in Bursa. İt is sometimes hard for me but it is important my future life.
In Short difficult decisions are part of our life and we must carefull and be smart for this decisions.

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hi ecem what are you doing my beautiful ex girl friend...I missed you baby,i hope you are happy.I'm very changeable at the moments because ı'll go to hıgh school and i have to decide where i want go to.I'm asking that you think which üniversity do i decide to.I think, i should go to istanbul so i want to study engineer and if i study in istanbul,i can improve my self in there.Furthermore my brother is in istanbul this situations turn me to istanbul but this city is very crowded and it's got air politions and you know i don't like it.
I hope you'll turn me
P.S. i still love you...good bye see you

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Hi Matthew!
I hope you feel good,I will tell you about my most difficult decision.My topic is selection üniversity.
First of all I had a strong üniversity exam and I got a good mark,but the important question is where I go to the üniversity.Everybody was saying something for üniversity.First I wanted to go to Uludağ Üniversity than I went to Okan Üniversty information office and I dicided to go to Okan Üniversity.I know I choose the best thing for me.I hope,have nice years:) see you.
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in life we must take difficult decisions.I think the most difficult decisions to be taken in life is marriage sweetheart.because to find the right person to decide to spend a lifetime with him is rather difficult.a person who decide to marry think about this issue very much and should give the most accurate decision.because when we get married we start a new life with husband or wife and we take all responsibility for life ourselves.therefore We must make the best choice.our husband or wife have same thougts and look to life same place,should have the same education level.because if couples have diffrent education this situtation will cause some problems.the same time couples should have good financial income.therefore Nothing happens without money.in marriage families get on well each other.because on both sides want to be with their children.all in all They always encountered.
finally marriage is a difficult decision.before we take this decision we should be considered.We have to get their ideas of our family.We must be sure against a well known.
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Marriage is the most difficult and important decision of life. Marriage needs more responsibility. Because of military in Turkey people generally marry after military. Marriage has many advantages and disadvantages for examle a married person can easily work formally because he/she have to earn money for their family and has to live more regular. On the other hand many companies wants their workers young who did their military and single. They thinks that single and young people wants to make a good career and they are more ambitious than married ones. In Turkish culture marriage is so popular and the age average of the people who married are so young. According to this statement we can easily understand that old Turkish culture not overlaps with new metropolis rules. After marriage nobody can live like the same life style before they married so the people who wants marriage has to think a lot because it is an important decision. Marriage life changes people so some people beware for marriage because nobody wants change like a father or a mother in a short time. Teenagers are rebellious so they don't want marriage because of disadvantages for themselves. In conclusion marriage is an important decision so be careful to make that choise...

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I gonna tell you the most terrible desicion of my life. It is about a kind of examination called 'öss' which is the worse part of education systym in our country. I had it about one year ago then i passed it so i had to decide what i wanna be. I really though about it with my family andit was really hard to find right choice because this desicion was going to affect all my life. Everybody said something about it so my head was increasingly confuse . The most important part was what İ really wanted and that really sucks . Those were the days i got some help from student adviser that took our few days just choosing faculity but the most difficult one was ordering the choices because it could force me to change my hometown and it should be nightmare to change my life that i used to. At the end i passed it i didn't feel bad because İ'm here where i really want to be. I had to give up a lot of thing that i used to like friends, our places. There are so far away from here and that blows. I missed them so much but i belive in my luck because i' m happy there for being here. i love my new friends and school too.

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hallo!!


It was six years ago.I made the most important decision of my life.That night, my friends came to me and we gossiped until that day.Then when the time was at 19:00, my friends decided to leave.I went out to see them off with my friends.we waited for a bus together.When they got in bus, I was waiting on sidewalk. Suddenly I heard brake voice.A car was coming toward me .I didn't have enough time actually any time.I couldn't know what will I do? I was afraid so much.I decided to run speedily but where? toward front or toward back!! I had to decide and I run toward front.I achieved to escape but I don't never forget that I felt wind of the car.
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Every people must give hard decisions in life.But in the life of people they usually have the most difficult decision.My most difficult desicions revelant to my life style.Firstly,this does not look like my decision, but when i grow older , i'm understand that ''it's my decision''. My speech,my method of execution,my request,my mistakes... When i noticed these differences , i understand that this is my :) . i can correct my mistakes when i realize it . For example , if i don't study my lesson , my parents be angry to me, nevertheless i still not study :). But , i know that's my fault not my parents. They spend a lot of money for me . i can compensation my fault . However i don't want study and i don't compensation my fault . At least not the life of other i m living my own life :).

Tony Hawk is awesome

For Tony Hawk, the Skateboard Is a Canvas

Published: February 6, 2010

I STARTED skateboarding because I never fit in with team sports. I was so energetic as a kid, and skating became my outlet. It was like finding a blank canvas.

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Greg Gorman

TONY HAWK

President, Tony Hawk Inc., Vista, Calif.

AGE 41

NUMBER OF BONES HE HAS BROKEN 3

FAVORITE VACATION SPOT Tavarua Island, Fiji

FAVORITE MOVIE STAR Benicio Del Toro

You can skateboard however you want, any style. You don’t have to listen to a coach or rely on a team. I played basketball and baseball but never felt that I was improving. But every time I skated, I got better at it.

When I started, the industry was relatively small, and there weren’t many competitions. There was no governing organization. To reach a professional rank, I simply checked the box on the form for professional instead of amateur. To enter competitions today, you need the support of sponsors and you have to qualify.

In the early 1990s, interest in skateboarding dropped off, and royalties and sales of goods I had licensed decreased. It was a difficult time financially. I learned that I loved skateboarding even if I didn’t get paid for it. I knew this all along, but that period really put me to the test. It also taught me to be self-motivated and to appreciate what I had.

In 1992, I started Birdhouse Projects to sell skateboards. In 1998, I started Hawk Clothing and later sold it to Quiksilver. I also started Tony Hawk Inc. that year, and it now has five divisions: merchandising, endorsements, events, film and digital media. In 2002, I arranged the first of the Boom Boom HuckJam tours that feature BMX bikers, skateboarders, motocross athletes and rock bands.

I’ve had people question whether I’m a real person. Parents have said they think I’m a video game character. We just released a new video game, Tony Hawk: Ride, which has a skateboard as a controller. Selling hardware is not easy because people are under the impression they’re going to have to upgrade it at some point. Our challenge has been to convince them that it’s not the case with this game.

I didn’t attend college, but I’ve never regretted it because skating presented such a great opportunity. I traveled extensively. I experienced so many things that I otherwise wouldn’t have, and I was exposed to so much culture.

I’m not saying that everyone should skip college, but I learned so much that I feel I’m self-educated. When my high school classmates were trying to figure out what they were going to study, I already had a career and a house.

I still come up against the attitude that skating professionally is a bad influence on kids or not a viable career option. I do my best to prove the naysayers wrong. There’s also a lot of pressure associated with the title of professional skateboarder. No matter where I go, people expect amazing feats. If I go to a public skate park, kids will sit down and expect me to entertain them.

I don’t think in terms of being an icon; I think about being a role model to my own kids. If what I do transcends that, fine. But I’m not trying to present an image that’s not me.

I took my 1 1/2 -year-old daughter on the media tour for the video game last fall. It was fun to have her along.

I see some of myself in my sons. My 8-year-old has learned that the brick finish on our house can be used as a rock-climbing wall. Recently I heard yelling outside. I found him clinging to the side of the house 10 feet off the ground. He couldn’t get down and wanted me to catch him.

Several years ago I started a foundation to build free skate parks in low-income areas. Kids use them from sunup to sundown. Our endorsement can help cut through the red tape in communities. So far we’ve had a hand in creating 450 parks.

As told to Patricia R. Olsen.

C2 The paranormal

Hey guys!

Check out this amazing article I found on Bigfoot

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21518056/

This article talks about how they found some new pictures of bigfoot and how it has reopened the debate about the truth or falsity of the bigfoot legend

C2 extra reading for week 4

The key to success? Personal responsibility

Creator of ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul’ says his 64 principles are a guarantee to reaching goals. Here’s an excerpt

Principle One
Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot
change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind,
but you can change yourself.
Jim Rohn
America’s foremost business philosopher

One of the most pervasive myths in the American culture today is that we are entitled to a great life — that somehow, somewhere, someone (certainly not us) is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness, exciting career options, nurturing family time, and blissful personal relationships simply because we exist.

But the real truth — and the one lesson this whole book is based on — is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live.

That person is you.

If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings — everything!

This is not easy.

In fact, most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don't like. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, the media, our coworkers, our clients, our spouse, the weather, the economy, our astrological chart, our lack of money — anyone or anything we can pin the blame on. We never want to look at where the real problem is — ourselves.

There is a wonderful story told about a man who is out walking one night and comes upon another man down on his knees looking for something under a streetlamp. The passerby inquires as to what the other man is looking for. He answers that he is looking for his lost key. The passerby offers to help and gets down on his knees and helps him search for the key. After an hour of fruitless searching, he says, "We've looked everywhere for it and we haven't found it. Are you sure that you lost it here?"

The other man replies, "No, I lost it in my house, but there is more light out here under the streetlamp."

It is time to stop looking outside yourself for the answers to why you haven't created the life and results you want, for it is you who creates the quality of the life you lead and the results you produce.

You — no one else!

To achieve major success in life — to achieve those things that are most important to you — you must assume 100% responsibility for your life. Nothing less will do.

One Hundred Percent Responsibility For Everything
As I mentioned in the introduction, back in 1969 — only one year out of graduate school — I had the good fortune to work for W. Clement Stone. He was a self-made multimillionaire worth $600 million at the time — and that was long before all the dot-com millionaires came along in the '90s. Stone was also America's premier success guru. He was the publisher of Success Magazine, author of The Success System That Never Fails, and coauthor with Napoleon Hill of Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude.

When I was completing my first week's orientation, Mr. Stone asked me if I took 100% responsibility for my life.

"I think so," I responded.

"This is a yes or no question, young man. You either do or you don't."

"Well, I guess I'm not sure."

"Have you ever blamed anyone for any circumstance in your life? Have you ever complained about anything?"

"Uh ... yeah ... I guess I have."

"Don't guess. Think."

"Yes, I have."

"Okay, then. That means you don't take one hundred percent responsibility for your life. Taking one hundred percent responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all of your experience. If you want to be really successful, and I know you do, then you will have to give up blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for your life — that means all your results, both your successes and your failures. That is the prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.

"You see, Jack, if you realize that you have created your current conditions, then you can uncreate them and re-create them at will. Do you understand that?"

"Yes, sir, I do."

"Are you willing to take one hundred percent responsibility for your life?"

"Yes, sir, I am!"

And I did.

You Have to Give Up All Your Excuses

Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from
people who have a habit of making excuses.

George Washington Carver
Chemist who discovered over 325 uses for the peanut

If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. That means giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons why you can't and why you haven't up until now, and all your blaming of outside circumstances. You have to give them all up forever.

You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result. For whatever reason — ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to feel safe — you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why? It doesn't matter. The past is the past. All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose — that's right, it's a choice — you choose to act as if (that's all that's required — to act as if ) you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn't happen to you.

Poem of the day October 22

After Apple-Picking
by Robert Frost
My long two-pointed ladder's sticking through a tree Toward heaven still, And there's a barrel that I didn't fill Beside it, and there may be two or three Apples I didn't pick upon some bough. But I am done with apple-picking now. Essence of winter sleep is on the night, The scent of apples: I am drowsing off. I cannot rub the strangeness from my sight I got from looking through a pane of glass I skimmed this morning from the drinking trough And held against the world of hoary grass. It melted, and I let it fall and break. But I was well Upon my way to sleep before it fell, And I could tell What form my dreaming was about to take. Magnified apples appear and disappear, Stem end and blossom end, And every fleck of russet showing clear. My instep arch not only keeps the ache, It keeps the pressure of a ladder-round. I feel the ladder sway as the boughs bend. And I keep hearing from the cellar bin The rumbling sound Of load on load of apples coming in. For I have had too much Of apple-picking: I am overtired Of the great harvest I myself desired. There were ten thousand thousand fruit to touch, Cherish in hand, lift down, and not let fall. For all That struck the earth, No matter if not bruised or spiked with stubble, Went surely to the cider-apple heap As of no worth. One can see what will trouble This sleep of mine, whatever sleep it is. Were he not gone, The woodchuck could say whether it's like his Long sleep, as I describe its coming on, Or just some human sleep.

Homework for week 3 listening/speaking C3

Hey there guys, here is a little activity where you can listen about spiders. You should listen for the first time without help, then go through the vocabulary down below, and if you want to make sure you understood everything you can download the entire script on the right side. Also, does anyone have any ideas of songs that they would like to hear and go through next week?

weekend homework - C2

Shanghai


read the story and answer the following questions
1- how is china similar to America? 2- what is the most frustrating part about China? 3- why do Chinese people follow some rules but not others?


My time here in China has been an opportunity to learn about a culture very different from my own. I’ve learned to appreciate the apparent chaotic lifestyle of average China that, although it seems crazy to an American, has successfully created the fastest growing economy in the world. Living in Shanghai, away from the usual tourist spots, with a Chinese roommate has helped accelerate the process of getting to know this country better, while learning to appreciate what this great country has to offer.

China has been both enlightening and frustrating. Enlightening because the experiences here are amazing; frustrating because the cultural differences are sometimes difficult to understand. It has struck me as a place of strict rules, yet greater freedom. On the one hand, people religiously obey the ‘do not walk’ signs at crosswalks; on the other, seatbelts are rarely, if ever used, and certainly not in backseats. If a sign says ‘wait in line here’ everyone will wait there, whether or not it really makes sense; in a grocery store trying to get your vegetables weighed is a very difficult because the concept of waiting in line is often ignored. People regularly stroll the streets with open containers. People say that China has the greatest potential of any nation in the coming years. Here in the middle of everything, however, things look a bit chaotic.
If one word in Chinese could sum up my experience thus far, it would be weishenme? Why? Sometimes things make sense: stopping at the crosswalk and being so adamant about it makes sense because drivers have the right of way. In contrast, backseat seatbelts are usually tucked away and inaccessible. Here more than many places you probably wish you could use them. It’s these sorts of actions that seem to typify at China. When there are rules in place and enforcement to back them up, those rules are rarely broken. If there aren’t rules, or not necessarily strong enforcement, then just about anything is allowed. At times it seems like we have more freedom here than in the States, at least down on the street. But as foreigners we have to be careful what we do. Big Brother is never far away.

When we first arrived, I thought ‘this isn’t that different.’ In fact, Shanghai with all its western influence is not extremely different. But in subtle ways, it can be very different. Take for example, how people here tend to walk very closely to one another; how pushing and shoving in crowded areas are considered normal; haggling to get a good price for just about anything you buy is common. It was these types of behaviors that, to me at least, were all quite strange. But making changes to these sorts of differences has all been part of the learning process. As a specific example, haggling for prices has helped in terms of dealing with people, learning to recognize how far you can be obstinate, what you can or can’t do when negotiating with someone. Gaining that ability should, even if just in a small way, help me negotiate with people in general.